As we start 2020 and a new decade, I can’t help but reflect on what the past 10 years has brought me and also to focus on where I am going in the next 10 years. Are you the driver in your life? Or are you a passenger being driven? Have you chosen your destination?
Ten years ago, I had only just met my now-husband. I was living the high life in, Zurich, Switzerland, working hard (as an in-house lawyer) and playing hard too (drinking and eating during the week and heading into the mountains for activity at the weekend).
The past ten years have given me the most amazing lessons for growth. From getting married and having children to finding out I had high blood pressure, diastasis recti (separation of the abdominal muscles) and pelvic organ prolapse (of the bladder). There have been highs and lows, but most of all there has been learning.
I actually feel incredibly grateful for the “lows”.
The “lows” have been the wake-up call that I needed to get my health and my life back on track. Gradually over the past 10 years, I’ve realised that life was happening to me. I wasn’t always in the driving seat and when I was in the driving seat, I was often merely driving to a destination that I hadn’t really thought about. My destination was often pre-determined by society and the people surrounding me.
I am not talking about blame.
I am talking about being a little more curious about why I do what I do.
Where the beliefs we hold come from and whether they actually serve us as individuals in the present moment. I’ve stopped focussing on short term results for most things in life including health and wellbeing. Instead I’ve started to look at life as the life long journey it is.
My top tips for being in the driving seat for 2020 and beyond
Think about what you would like to achieve in the next year. What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? How do you want to feel?
I love vision boards and picking out images of what I see for myself in the future, but even writing down your vision and reading it to yourself on a regular basis is a great way to help you move in the direction that you want to go in. I really enjoyed Tara Swart on the Dr Chatterjee podcast, episode 58 on this subject and she goes into a lot more detail in her book The Source.
Start questioning why you do what you do. Is it something you’ve chosen to do? Or are you acting on auto-pilot fulfilling the expectations of others or society?
Remember, we’re not talking about blame. We’re talking about being curious. I’ve found the more I question things in a curious manner, the more in control I feel about the direction I am going in whether that’s for my health, my life or my general wellbeing.
What are your priorities? How do you want to spend your time?
Perhaps your house is your top priority or making sure your children have exposure to as many activities as possible.